I have recently been reading a book entitled Jesus wept, it is all about vulnerability in leadership. The authors speak of how Jesus shared his earthly frustrations and vulnerabilities with a select group of people. To some he was the charismatic leader and teacher, to others words of wisdom were opened and explained and some frustrations shared, to his “inner circle of friends: Peter, James and John, he was most fully himself, and in all of these things he was open to God.So I bring you this weeks Friday 5:
I’m pretty private and not a big sharer. I tend to process emotional information internally and then I can share about it when I’m done. I have a few friends with whom I share everything, but I don’t just give it away.
At work it’s important, although I can’t always say I’m successful at it. I’m a creative type amongst lawyers, but cool lawyers, if that’s possible, so they are sweet enough to help me channel my creative inappropriateness toward projects that don’t make me look like such a doofus. In ministry it’s tricky, especially as a single female. I have to be appropriately vulnerable without being dishonest or manipulative. It’s also important for me to discern between actual friendships and ministry relationships because occasionally I’ve gotten the two confused. In those instances it’s an issue of unmet (unrealistic) expectations, because I’ve assumed a reciprocity that the other person is not capable of and have therefore been a bit drained. It’s a process.
Sometimes a necessary social evil. Overall,I think masks aren’t necessarily a bad thing because not everyone needs to know everything. I have a few friends who will figuratively hold back my hair while I emotionally vomit but that’s not everyone’s business.
Anni, Vanessa, Heather, Kenny, Momi and my family
Brennan Manning’s The Wisdom of Tenderness